As a form of objectification, ogling may or may not be a dangerous trend, but can seriously interfere with a person’s ability to relate in an intimate relationship.Ogling as a form of sexualizing and objectifying people is so common among sex addicts as to be almost universal.
There are a million ways for a man to brush aside your concern and make you feel that you are overreacting. I have worked with many sex addicts and their partners for whom ogling is a serious problem.
By that I mean often the sex addict will be unable to stop looking at attractive women and will be using the images of sexy women he sees in passing as a way to be swept away, to feed a fantasy life, and to avoid the person he is with.
One of the partners of sex addicts who wrote to me challenged this idea.
Her partner is a recovering sex addict who ogles women.
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Many wives and partners of sex addicts complain of their partner ogling other women.
It’s about the intent, the hunting, the feeding, the drinking in, the filling up.”She describes also:“…a different person I know who captures image impressions of women’s bodies and files them away mentally for later fantasy use.
These also could be just very brief glimpses of someone’s cleavage or of someone in an every day position that is sexually titillating to the viewer.”This woman’s partner is not unusual.
So basically, someone could look for under three seconds and get a potent sexual hit.
In other words, it’s really not about the amount of time.
And it can also provide a direct trigger to relapse in an addict who gets swept into fantasy.