Specifically, I had to see how I started by asking myself some tough questions: What are the ways I'm being unavailable in this relationship? When I got real with myself, I recognized that I had chosen to date "casually" as a way to keep one foot out of the relationship I was in.What beliefs are keeping me from fully committing to another person? Turns out, I'm actually to be "all in" with another person. I got involved with a man, then moved across the country! The reason I did all these unavailable things was because I feared commitment.A few months later, you start to realize that you may be really falling for this person.
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When you give your all into a relationship or to someone who isn’t giving anything back in return, it sucks, but it's also a hard pattern to break — but you can certainly do it.
I've learned that relationships mirror our beliefs back to us.
In other words, the patterns that occur in romantic love are clues to what we believe about ourselves and relationships. I've dedicated my life to helping others transform their relationships by changing their internal realities.
When you face that dilemma and change your beliefs, you will see changes in your reality. Please leave a comment below telling us one belief that is keeping you stuck in relationships, and how you're going to shift it.
Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher.
Here’s what they had to say: If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone who’s emotionally unavailable, then you know what the dark side looks like, Esther Boykin, licensed psychotherapist and CEO of Group Therapy Associates tells Bustle.
At first they're mysterious, deep, brooding, or even funny and the life of the party.
So, you push and you push and you put all your effort into trying to convince this person that you two could be really great together, but instead of getting the answer you want, you’re pretty much left with insecurities, unanswered questions, and of course, heartache.
I talked to several experts for their advice on how to stop dating emotionally unavailable people.
Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be.